There is a sane way, and it's slower and cheaper than the throw-away cycle. Patch test properly: apply the product twice daily to the same small spot (inside of the forearm or behind the ear) for seven to ten days — that's the AAD's actual protocol, and the duration matters because irritant and allergic reactions can take days to declare themselves (https://www.aad.org/public/everyday-care/skin-care-secrets/prevent-skin-problems/test-skin-care-products). If the patch stays quiet, introduce it to the face alone — one new product at a time, a couple of weeks apart, so a reaction has an unambiguous culprit (https://www.aad.org/public/everyday-care/skin-care-secrets/anti-aging/maximize-anti-aging-products). Meanwhile keep a boring, known-good base routine you never change: gentle cleanser, bland moisturizer, mineral sunscreen. Testing against a stable background is what makes the signal readable.
Now the second half of your question, which matters more: recurrent hot flushing across the cheeks and nose triggered by wine, spice, heat, and stress — especially with visible small vessels or bumps — is the textbook picture of rosacea, not garden-variety sensitive skin. That's worth a proper diagnosis, because rosacea has specific treatments with real trial evidence (azelaic acid 15% among the topicals, with 12-week randomized data: https://dailymed.nlm.nih.gov/dailymed/fda/fdaDrugXsl.cfm?setid=63773349-0295-4d56-a72e-0d7cade88ddb), and because a trigger diary — the National Rosacea Society's standard advice — turns "everything sets me off" into an actual manageable list.
So: patch test slowly, change one thing at a time, and put a dermatologist visit on the calendar. If it is rosacea, you'll stop blaming yourself for a skin condition with a name and a plan.